Hello TOWIG Reader,
Thank you for clicking on the link to get here! Wherever you are reading this, I would like you to take a deep breath for five seconds….hold… and exhale for five seconds! Whatever day you’ve had so far, we can all do with a little bit more oxygen in our systems and letting go of any stressors of the day.
On the last post we spoke about ‘The Evolution of Self’ and how important it is to give ourselves permission to change. We also looked at the history of personal development and I gave you some tips on how to “get the ball rolling” (if you missed that blog, you can read it here).
So, Strategic Development!
Today I want to delve a little deeper into how we embark on personal development. It’s possible you were a little like the old me – I would see a great personal development book and think “oh I have to have it” because the title was catchy or it was a number one on The New York Times Bestsellers List! Nothing wrong with this, however, how many books do we have in our homes that we are yet to read and haven’t read in five years? Guilty!!
Furthermore have you ever experienced picking up a book after some years and realise this is exactly what I need right now! Suddenly this book has all the answers needed to assist you to get to that next level in your life (this can also be applied to “coincidentally” coming across a YouTube video or article as we browse the internet).
Imagine having that same impact on your life at will. What I mean is, it is possible for us to be intentional in identifying exactly what we need for the “season” of development we are in, to rapidly advance our growth. If you haven’t thought about this before I would like to propose a method that you may find helpful.
What I would like of you to do is:
Write down the top three areas of your life that you would like to see developed and for each area ask:
– What would success look like?
– Where am I at right now with this area?
– What has stopped me from changing this already?
– Write down the questions that you need answering for each area
– Write down the date of when you will be able to notice a tangible change.
Akua realises she has a difficult time setting boundaries with herself and others, success would look like being confident to set boundaries and not feel guilty because of it. Right now she feels like people take advantage of her kindness and it’s making her feel taken for granted. What has stopped Akua is the fear of being rejected by the people around her if she set boundaries. The questions Akua may ask herself is:
- What stops people from setting boundaries?
- What do I need to do to not allow negative emotions to govern my abilities to set boundaries?
- How do I implement boundaries successfully?
Now realistically decide when you would like to see a difference and write that date down.
* Tip: Purchase a journal or note pad devoted to personal development *
- For each area research who the thought leader is. Find articles, videos or books, watch and/or read to find the answers to the questions you have.
- Be intentional about making an effort to apply what you have learnt. You may not get it right daily, so ensure you give yourself some grace. The more you work at it, the more it will become natural to you.
Thank you for taking the time to read, it is my hope that you find this useful and enriching in your life. If you have any questions or suggestions (including topics), please feel free to email me here.
Enjoy the rest of this amazing week!
To your greatness,