The Ghanaian woman is one whom of much is expected but is often not credited enough. This woman can rear several children at once, keep a home neat and spotless, prepare top notch meals, hold down a job, and receive a quality education. She will discipline adequately but show a huge amount of love. She can perform the role of a counselor, a loving aunt, a reliable friend, and confidant. She’s strong but has a heart of gold. However, despite all of the strength and beauty the Ghanaian woman possesses, she can be cast aside and disrespected. Keep reading and find out why we as Ghanaian women give our power away, how to stop giving our power away, and how to live more fulfilling lives.
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- We Allow Others To Dictate Our Lives
I feel frustrated when hearing statements like “What will so and so say” “Everyone will look at me badly” “I can’t let others think…” First off, who cares what others “think?” They are not in your shoes, they haven’t lived your life, they haven’t experienced the circumstances you have so their thoughts or words hold no weight. Your life shouldn’t be based on other’s opinions. Your life should consist of your journey, made in your own lane, at the pace designated for you by God or your higher power. I find that many Ghanaians love to make individuals and their downfalls the topic of discussion instead of working diligently to improve the quality of their own life. Take all of the energy you have and live out your dreams!
2. We Take A Lot Of Crap From Individuals Undeserving Of Our Energy and Time
At one point or another, we may have family members, acquaintances, friends, co-workers, or associates that are not a healthy component in our lives. They may be manipulative, nosy, gossip mongers, unprogressive, or downright evil. Yet some of us feel compelled to include them in every aspect of our lives because “that’s just how they are.” Wrong! Just because a person is related to you or close to you it doesn’t mean you’re obligated to tolerate their behavior. Yes, you can acknowledge their character and forgive them but do yourself a favor and protect your light and your space. Not everyone deserves to know your ins and outs. Learn to love from a distance.
3. We Get Intimate Too Quickly With The Wrong Men
Ahhhhhh sex. Lovemaking is a beautiful thing. Nonetheless, it shouldn’t be an activity done with just anyone. I’ve heard stories of men and women in Ghana seducing one another for money, a chance to leave Ghana for a foreign country; I’ve also known of a few cases where women were duped into thinking they were going to get married just to find out their fiance married another woman. It is painful to be betrayed by someone we love. Often, there are warning signs blaring at us but we choose to ignore it because we don’t think we’ll have another chance at love, we hear our biological clock ticking, or we have to prove we’re worthy of marriage. Also, we can be emotionally intimate with the wrong person as well. Save yourself the heartache and listen to your intuition and hone in on your gift of discernment; it doesn’t lie.
4. We Don’t Believe In Our Abilities
You can do whatever you put your mind to. It will not be easy but it will be well worth it. That dream is in your heart and mind for a reason. Now go out and make it happen. Regardless of the naysayers.
5. We Do Too Much For Others and Don’t Have Enough Time For Ourselves
We can’t continue to put our lives and dreams on the back burner for others. Ask yourself will you be able to live with yourself and not be bitter if you don’t pursue your goals? What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind?
What other strengths do you think Ghanaian women possess? Do you agree with the reasoning presented above? Share in the comments section!
Until next time.